The Mortal Mamba

Getting hurt is an inevitable part of life. No matter how hard we try, we can’t control everything around us. At some point in our lives, we are bound to experience physical and/or emotional pain caused by our own actions or that of someone else’s.

Physical pain is usually more straightforward to deal with. It may require medical attention or some self-care, but in most cases, we are able to find a prescribed method to alleviate the discomfort. On the other hand, emotional pain is often more complex and difficult to understand and manage.

Emotional pain can arise from various sources and can have long-lasting effects on our mental health. For example, a broken relationship, the loss of a loved one, or a traumatic event can leave deep emotional scars that may take a long time to heal. Moreover, feelings of self-doubt and low self-esteem can also be a significant source of emotional pain.

Sometimes though if the other person doesn’t have any intention of hurting us, we might get hurt without the other person being aware of it. A simple ignorance, a slight rise in tone could be enough for someone to get hurt.

One way to deal with emotional pain is to seek help from a therapist, a trusted friend or a family member. Talking about our feelings with someone who understands and supports us can provide a sense of relief and help us gain perspective regarding our situation. Engaging in self-care such as exercise, meditation, or hobbies can also help.

However what has worked for me most of the time is solitude, where I do nothing other than notice my emotions and the emerging thoughts. It has worked well so far. I have always believed we are twins – one that faces the world and the other that sits within (call it weak analogy or body-soul, whatever). I know the only bond that will be the longest to exist is the relationship between the twin and me. We have grown together and will co-exist until we die. In my lifetime all other relationships will perish and this one will be the last one to end and hence I value this one the most. You can call it self-talk, but I consider it differently, the twin-model works better for me.
(Well at this point do not feel that I am some sort of schizophrenic maniac.. )

Finally, it is crucial to be kind to ourselves (your twin) and to others, especially during difficult times. Practicing self-compassion and empathy towards others can help us navigate through the pain and emerge stronger and more resilient. Remember, getting hurt is a natural part of life, but it does not define who we are or our worth as individuals. We are all deserving of love, care, and respect, and we should treat ourselves and others accordingly.

The rich have their own problems, the poor have their own. Men have their own and women have their own. Kids feel powerless, adults feel burdened and elderly feel weak.

Be kind wherever possible, to yourself, to everyone. Life is complex for everyone.